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Would You Rather Meet Someone’s Expectations Or Go Beyond Them?

Do you ever feel like you need to meet someone’s expectations? It’s crazy how we live in a world like this. Some people are brought up having to achieve certain grades and milestones to make their parents proud.

My childhood was always about doing my best and if great results followed that was just a bonus. The main thing my parents wanted was for me to play, make friends, and learn new things in the process. But there have still been times where I feel like I disappointed them. It’s something we go through even as we get older.

The growing up stage

Growing up you learn that some friendships are forever and some drift away. And that’s okay. You’re still continuing to learn… you always are no matter no age. Facing the fear of not meeting someone’s expectations will worry you. Why? Because you’re afraid they’ll think less of you, or take away your feeling of being ‘good enough’.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve punished myself for not doing as well in something as I thought I would. Sometimes it’s about making more effort and a whole lot of hard work. But not always. At times, you’ve done all you can and it is what it is. As much of a challenge as it’s been, choosing to go on my own path had led me to the best things in life.

The 3 things that have brought out the best happiness in me are:

Sticking to my passion for media and writing

Throughout primary school (writing stories), high school (beginning a media studies qualification) and continuing with that in college and university. It led me to the job I’m in today which I wouldn’t have got with sticking to my dreams and working hard.

Doing things to remember the ones I’ve loved and lost

I’m glad that grandad has his name with granny on their plot. Having his name on there is so important to me. Completing the Great Manchester Run in memory of him was one of the most emotional rollercoasters. And it was one of my biggest accomplishments. I’ve also created my fundraising own event to raise awareness of premature babies, still births, and baby loss for Tommy’s. You might have seen my mum’s story about her experience of a still birth.

Being in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend who’s so much more than a ‘boyfriend’ – he’s my best friend.

Everything I see in my future is with him. He gets frustrated with some of my insecurities and worries because he wishes I’d see what he does. Having someone who sees nothing but the best in you regardless of your flaws releases an amazing feeling.

It goes to show that you can go beyond your own expectations of yourself.

Be proud of yourself. There’s nothing wrong with taking pride in what you do. I’ve probably told you several times that life is living. Make a list of all the things you’ve ever wanted to do and plan how/when you can do them. If being happy means you need to remove yourself from environments that drown you in misery then leave. Ask for help if you’re struggling. Surround yourself with positive people and a positive mind will follow.

The key message is, everyone struggles in some way or another.

Have more faith in yourself and you’ll see that more things seem possible rather than impossible. So what do you prefer to do – meet someone’s expectations or choose your own goals and choices? I’d love to know what you think. Comment below or tell me via Tasha Lifestyle on Twitter.

9 thoughts on “Would You Rather Meet Someone’s Expectations Or Go Beyond Them?

  1. Aww this post is so heartwarming! Yesss never give up on your passion! 100% I will never let my goals be defined by someone else. I make my own targets and if I achieve or exceed them brilliant! And if I don’t, life goes on.. xo

  2. This is such an empowering post, it has made me think about what it is that I want from my life. All I can say is that I’m in a toxic work environment, and this is stressing me out to the point that I am losing weight too fast and sometimes forget to eat. I want to get out of South Africa (knowing what is going on here and how it’s getting worse). But, for that I need money and my salary is so low that I can hardly save up. Do you have any advice?

    1. Hey Chrissie, thank you for reading this post. I’m glad it’s had such a positive impact on you. With saving, just keep doing your best. It takes time but it’s so worth it in the end. Give yourself enough money to live off. Even if you reach your goal, keep going, and have the faith to believe that good things are going to happen 🙂

      1. Thank you, Natasha. I am hoping to start a self-hosted blog, so that I can have more control on my blog and learn to be more consistent with posting. Your blog is a wonderful inspiration to me.

  3. I tend to go beyond them. In the end though, sometimes I do much more than is needed! Maybe its the perfectionist in me, but sometimes I wonder if it would be better to just simply meet them?

    1. I think I can be a little bit of a perfectionist at times too. Sometimes, it’s good that we meet expectations. But we shouldn’t put ourselves down when we don’t meet them.

      Thank you for reading.

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