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Recent Thoughts About Self-Love

Until a week or so ago my self-love levels were extremely low. I felt like things were changing. I got back into that place where I disliked loads of things about myself. Telling myself I looked ugly in that outfit or that I’m not good enough so I chose to hide away. I’ve learnt that isolating yourself only makes you feel worse. Sometimes, your own company is good. But too much of it, when you’re putting yourself down isn’t good. It certainly doesn’t help towards improving self-love.

I’ve learnt that avoiding situations can be both, a good and a bad thing. Avoiding situations where all you see are toxic relationships or you feel uncomfortable – I’ve chose to avoid them. Why but yourself into a scenario that makes you feel unhappy? There’s no reason in my eyes. But one thing, I’ve learnt that I need to work on is, to stop pushing people away. Or in fact, pulling myself away.

Self-love starts with being yourself

I’ll never be able to emphasise how important it is to just be yourself. When you can’t come to terms with why someone loves you, or you have a constant cloud of worry hanging over your head – talk to someone. Choose your people wisely. Danny is my person and he always will be. No matter how distant things may seem at times, if you talk to someone, you’ll face a reality. And you’ll see how things really are.

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There’s nothing wrong with having the need to work on being you. After all, we need to remember that no-one is perfect. Like I’ve said before:

We all have our flaws. We all make mistakes. The important thing is to try not to make the same mistakes over and okay again.

Enjoy being around the people who really make you happy. Remember that, it is okay to say no. But also remember, sometimes its important to make an effort.

Be your own life coach

Make time for the people who make time for you. Put aside the people who wouldn’t even have you as a thought in their mind. That’s when you’ll start to see what you shouldn’t put up with. A greater step towards self-love. Because it isn’t all about appearance. It can be about the people you surround yourself with or environments you put yourself in.

I can’t promise myself or anybody else that I’m a fully confident woman. Sometimes, I will feel rubbish. But for the most part, I try to hold my head up and tell myself, anything is possible. When you start to realise these kind of things, you worry less about what others think.

So… start working on being the best you that you can be. And self-love will come to you. I completed a mindfulness course online once it was really helpful at the time. Take a look via FutureLearn.

4 thoughts on “Recent Thoughts About Self-Love

  1. Lovely post! I’m currently writing one similar, about body positivity and self love 🙌🏻 but I love how honest you are, we all have them times where we dislike ourselves and recognising we’re worth so much more is important 💕

    1. Hello! Thank you for reading this post and taking the time to comment.

      Being honest is the best way to be with ourselves, right? I’m glad you agree.

      I’m going to look out for your post. I’m sure it’ll be a great read 🙂

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